TAKE THE QUIZ
allow 2-5 minutes
What kind of voice/tone do you speak with?
Which of the following best describes your dancing style?
What do you consider your ideal car?
What of these makes you most uncomfortable at the thought of experiencing?
How would you most likely react in an argument?
Which best describes you?
As a child how did you play?
When texting or messaging which is most like you?
Which statement do you relate to the most?
Which statement means the most in regards to a partner?
Which of these words do you use most about yourself?
In friendships which of the following is more important to you ?
Choose the body type that fits you best...
Which of the following best describes your eating habits ?
As a Child (choose the one that most represents you)
Thinking about how you sit...
The Secret Affecting Your Relationships
Abandonment is the secret affecting your relationships.
Your predominant expression bruise is Abandonment. This bruise shows up through your behaviour and reactions within your relationships.
You love to feel loved and like to be with people.
When partnered, he/she is your world, you give your heart fully to them and like to be together most or all of the time.
It is important that you feel loved and wanted.
Inside you feel a deep unexplained sadness and can easily be brought to tears.
You love to have the support of your partner, family, work colleagues.
You like to ask for others’ approval and opinions.
You warm to others easily and like to be included, but can feel out of sorts if you think someone has left you out.
You don’t like to spend time on your own and might be plagued by thoughts of “what would I do all by myself”.
You are comfortable with drama and receiving the attention of others, this does not mean being in the spotlight, it is more about quality time with them.
You thrive when you feel supported by your partner, family, friends and work colleagues.
You engage with others easily, you are warm and a “people person”.
You may have experienced a divorce or break-up that took you by surprise because you couldn’t see any problems within the relationship.
You can tend to push others away by being needy.
You are tolerant within relationships, you persist more than most and may endure abuse or neglect because the thought of leaving, or being alone is too much.
Doing it on your own can feel overwhelming, maybe even too much to consider.
WORKING WITH ABANDONMENT
To embrace the bruise of abandonment, your self-worth needs a boost. Gaining independence takes baby steps towards feeling confident within yourself reducing your inner yearning to feel supported by others. Forgiving yourself, leaving shame behind, and understanding that you are not alone in this world, we can help you achieve this!
SoulLife® Map empowers you with life-transforming epiphanies, resulting in personal insights that form your specific outline, a life plan, completely unique to you so you can create and nurture relationships you desire.
www.tonireillyinstitute.com
Rejection is the secret affecting your relationships
Rejection is your predominate emotional bruise, it shows up through your behaviour and reactions within your relationships.
You have a tendency to withdraw rather than bring attention to yourself or create any fuss.
You are predominantly a loner.
You feel and actually, say out loud that you are hopeless. Eg: “I’m hopeless with budgeting” or “I am hopeless with technology”
You may see others as hopeless too.
You’re a perfectionist and have great stamina to see your projects or relationships through.
In any activity, you undertake you are efficient.
You’re highly intuitive and can sense energy.
You are a daydreamer, you can drift off even in mid-conversation.
Your natural tendency is to avoid feeling rejected.
You choose to say nothing and instead step back and avoid bringing attention to yourself.
You’re a deep thinker, you think everything through in great detail.
You struggle to express what you truly feel and because of that you often feel misunderstood and somewhat alienated as though no-one cares.
Speaking up for yourself is difficult, bordering on impossible in certain situations or with people closest to you (like your partner), there is a deep nonsensical fear of how they might respond.
Though you might not react, it means the world to you when your partner compliments you, because inside you feel ‘seen’.
Revealing your deep feelings is hard because you risk disapproval or disagreeing with you.
You do not like risking being judged by others and carefully monitor your behaviour to avoid it.
The silent treatment is how you deal with disagreement in relationships.
You withdraw from conflict and continue the scenario, by making stuff up your head.
Communicating deeply is a challenge, but only when it’s about you.
One-on-one you love conversations with substance until the spotlight turns to you, then you back off.
Resentment builds up over time, from not communicating your thoughts and true feelings.
WORKING WITH REJECTION
To embrace the bruise of rejection, regaining your identity becomes paramount. Through years of withdrawing the build-up of oppression becomes too much to hold in any longer. Learning to be honest about your needs realising that you matter and truly believing that you are worthwhile is how to overcome this one. And you will feel worthy once we’ve finished with you.
SoulLife® Map empowers you with life-transforming epiphanies, resulting in personal insights that form your specific outline, a life plan, completely unique to you so you can create and nurture relationships you desire.
www.tonireillyinstitute.com
Humiliation is the secret affecting your relationships
Humiliation is your predominate emotional bruise, it shows up through your behaviour and reactions within your relationships.
Criticism is crushing, you are easily hurt.
You are super sensitive.
You can sabotage outcomes to avoid feeling foolish, sometimes they result in the opposite of how you wanted to appear.
You prefer complete honesty from a partner, leaving no chance that you might be surprised leaving feeling like a fool.
You are competent and In tune to others needs.
You are a fabulous mediator, being able to validate arguments for both sides.
You are naturally generous.
You feel ashamed of yourself easily even though you would not be ashamed if someone else did the same thing.
You are usually the person that your friends and family lean as the rock who has all the answers.
You’re a natural counsellor, knowing when to advise, when to say nothing and when to simply listen.
You fear others feeling ashamed of you and do everything you can to avoid doing anything that might cause this, that makes you a people pleaser.
You bend over backward for other people, ensuring they are comfortable and at ease.
Even a general observation can be taken out of context and cause you to feel ashamed of yourself.
You can feel disgusted by your body.
You can feel embarrassed on behalf of others.
You might have had a brilliant night out and then the next day have flashbacks worrying that you made a fool of yourself.
WORKING WITH HUMILIATION
To embrace the bruise of humiliation, you must learn to accept yourself just the way that you are, which is perfect. By realising that you are worthwhile you leave shame and self-sabotage behind and replace them with the personal freedom that you crave.
SoulLife Love and Relationships WORKSHOPS empower you with life-transforming epiphanies, resulting in personal insights that form your specific outline, a life plan, completely unique to you so you can create and nurture relationships you desire.
www.tonireillyinstitute.com
Betrayal is the secret affecting your relationships.
Betrayal is your predominate emotional bruise, it shows up through your behaviour and reactions within your relationships.
Your tendency is to seek respect and trust from every person and situation that you encounter.
In order to avoid being seen as untrustworthy yourself or allow your trust to be taken advantage of you take control.
You are an amazing leader, capable of achieving a great following.
You have charisma that draws people in.
You can be impatient, expecting others to work at your powerful full-on pace.
You can speak to anyone because you class people equally, from the homeless person on the street to the president.
Flipside, you might micro-manage fearing that it will not be done right.
You have a strong ability to delegate and make decisions quickly.
You are protective and loyal.
You are capable of doing many things at once because your energy levels never seem to run out.
Jealousy may be the cause of your stress, where you have built up a belief that you can not trust your partner or those close to youYou may study continuously because you don’t trust that you know enough.
You might swoop in and take care of the needs of others so that you are seen as responsible and dependable, therefore trustworthy.
In order to feel you can trust those close, you attempt to control others with rules or expectations.
WORKING WITH BETRAYAL
To embrace the bruise of Betrayal, it is important to feel like you can trust those around you. The life mission is to truly trust yourself when you do you can acknowledge that being vulnerable is a strength. Impatience turns to patience once we’ve finished with you.
SoulLife® Map empowers you with life-transforming epiphanies, resulting in personal insights that form your specific outline, a life plan, completely unique to you so you can create and nurture relationships you desire.
www.tonireillyinstitute.com
Inequality is the secret affecting your relationships.
Inequality is your predominate emotional bruise, it shows up through your behaviour and reactions within your relationships.
In childhood, you found it unfair that you could not integrate your individuality.
When you feel challenged or do not agree you can become inflexible.
You fear imperfection, therefore have attention to detail.
You have the ability to simplify and explain easily.
You are extremely capable in an emergency being able to swoop in and take care of things, even disastrous situations.
On a personal level, you resist commitment.
When faced with injustice, your reaction is to cut off from your feelings, that is how you protect your soft-hearted self.
It is important to you to watch your weight, your esteem depends on it.
You are visionary with how you see things and are capable of dumbing complex ideas into language that others can understand. This makes you a great teacher.
You like to feel appreciated.
You do not like being taken for granted.
When people ask if you’re okay, you are most likely to respond with “I’m fine” or “no problem”.
You can feel ripped off if you perceive any circumstance is not what you deserved.
When your perfectionism is undermined, usually by you and your distorted perception of how things should be done or appear; you get stressed.
You seek fairness for all and in that process can end up being unfair to yourself.
You are not a fan of authority and will fight for your cause if you believe you are right.
Your self-control is extraordinary.
Sometimes you laugh to hide how sensitive you are.
You are a machine who rarely gets ill, you can keep going when many cannot.
You second guess your choices.
People see you as lively, amazing and dynamic because you are.
WORKING WITH INEQUALITY
To embrace the bruise of Inequality, you have to learn to lower the bar that you have set way too high by giving yourself unrealistic guidelines to live up to. By calming down your unrealistic expectations of yourself you can live more freely and easy-going. Once we’ve finished with you, you can kick anxiety to the curb for good.
SoulLife® Map empowers you with life-transforming epiphanies, resulting in personal insights that form your specific outline, a life plan, completely unique to you so you can create and nurture relationships you desire.
www.tonireillyinstitute.com
Share your Results:
What kind of voice/tone do you speak with?
Which of the following best describes your dancing style?
What do you consider your ideal car?
What of these makes you most uncomfortable at the thought of experiencing?
How would you most likely react in an argument?
Which best describes you?
As a child how did you play?
When texting or messaging which is most like you?
Which statement do you relate to the most?
Which statement means the most in regards to a partner?
Which of these words do you use most about yourself?
In friendships which of the following is more important to you ?
Choose the body type that fits you best...
Which of the following best describes your eating habits ?
As a Child (choose the one that most represents you)
Thinking about how you sit...
The Secret Affecting Your Relationships
Abandonment is the secret affecting your relationships.
Your predominant expression bruise is Abandonment. This bruise shows up through your behaviour and reactions within your relationships.
You love to feel loved and like to be with people.
When partnered, he/she is your world, you give your heart fully to them and like to be together most or all of the time.
It is important that you feel loved and wanted.
Inside you feel a deep unexplained sadness and can easily be brought to tears.
You love to have the support of your partner, family, work colleagues.
You like to ask for others’ approval and opinions.
You warm to others easily and like to be included, but can feel out of sorts if you think someone has left you out.
You don’t like to spend time on your own and might be plagued by thoughts of “what would I do all by myself”.
You are comfortable with drama and receiving the attention of others, this does not mean being in the spotlight, it is more about quality time with them.
You thrive when you feel supported by your partner, family, friends and work colleagues.
You engage with others easily, you are warm and a “people person”.
You may have experienced a divorce or break-up that took you by surprise because you couldn’t see any problems within the relationship.
You can tend to push others away by being needy.
You are tolerant within relationships, you persist more than most and may endure abuse or neglect because the thought of leaving, or being alone is too much.
Doing it on your own can feel overwhelming, maybe even too much to consider.
WORKING WITH ABANDONMENT
To embrace the bruise of abandonment, your self-worth needs a boost. Gaining independence takes baby steps towards feeling confident within yourself reducing your inner yearning to feel supported by others. Forgiving yourself, leaving shame behind, and understanding that you are not alone in this world, we can help you achieve this!
SoulLife® Map empowers you with life-transforming epiphanies, resulting in personal insights that form your specific outline, a life plan, completely unique to you so you can create and nurture relationships you desire.
www.tonireillyinstitute.com
Rejection is the secret affecting your relationships
Rejection is your predominate emotional bruise, it shows up through your behaviour and reactions within your relationships.
You have a tendency to withdraw rather than bring attention to yourself or create any fuss.
You are predominantly a loner.
You feel and actually, say out loud that you are hopeless. Eg: “I’m hopeless with budgeting” or “I am hopeless with technology”
You may see others as hopeless too.
You’re a perfectionist and have great stamina to see your projects or relationships through.
In any activity, you undertake you are efficient.
You’re highly intuitive and can sense energy.
You are a daydreamer, you can drift off even in mid-conversation.
Your natural tendency is to avoid feeling rejected.
You choose to say nothing and instead step back and avoid bringing attention to yourself.
You’re a deep thinker, you think everything through in great detail.
You struggle to express what you truly feel and because of that you often feel misunderstood and somewhat alienated as though no-one cares.
Speaking up for yourself is difficult, bordering on impossible in certain situations or with people closest to you (like your partner), there is a deep nonsensical fear of how they might respond.
Though you might not react, it means the world to you when your partner compliments you, because inside you feel ‘seen’.
Revealing your deep feelings is hard because you risk disapproval or disagreeing with you.
You do not like risking being judged by others and carefully monitor your behaviour to avoid it.
The silent treatment is how you deal with disagreement in relationships.
You withdraw from conflict and continue the scenario, by making stuff up your head.
Communicating deeply is a challenge, but only when it’s about you.
One-on-one you love conversations with substance until the spotlight turns to you, then you back off.
Resentment builds up over time, from not communicating your thoughts and true feelings.
WORKING WITH REJECTION
To embrace the bruise of rejection, regaining your identity becomes paramount. Through years of withdrawing the build-up of oppression becomes too much to hold in any longer. Learning to be honest about your needs realising that you matter and truly believing that you are worthwhile is how to overcome this one. And you will feel worthy once we’ve finished with you.
SoulLife® Map empowers you with life-transforming epiphanies, resulting in personal insights that form your specific outline, a life plan, completely unique to you so you can create and nurture relationships you desire.
www.tonireillyinstitute.com
Humiliation is the secret affecting your relationships
Humiliation is your predominate emotional bruise, it shows up through your behaviour and reactions within your relationships.
Criticism is crushing, you are easily hurt.
You are super sensitive.
You can sabotage outcomes to avoid feeling foolish, sometimes they result in the opposite of how you wanted to appear.
You prefer complete honesty from a partner, leaving no chance that you might be surprised leaving feeling like a fool.
You are competent and In tune to others needs.
You are a fabulous mediator, being able to validate arguments for both sides.
You are naturally generous.
You feel ashamed of yourself easily even though you would not be ashamed if someone else did the same thing.
You are usually the person that your friends and family lean as the rock who has all the answers.
You’re a natural counsellor, knowing when to advise, when to say nothing and when to simply listen.
You fear others feeling ashamed of you and do everything you can to avoid doing anything that might cause this, that makes you a people pleaser.
You bend over backward for other people, ensuring they are comfortable and at ease.
Even a general observation can be taken out of context and cause you to feel ashamed of yourself.
You can feel disgusted by your body.
You can feel embarrassed on behalf of others.
You might have had a brilliant night out and then the next day have flashbacks worrying that you made a fool of yourself.
WORKING WITH HUMILIATION
To embrace the bruise of humiliation, you must learn to accept yourself just the way that you are, which is perfect. By realising that you are worthwhile you leave shame and self-sabotage behind and replace them with the personal freedom that you crave.
SoulLife Love and Relationships WORKSHOPS empower you with life-transforming epiphanies, resulting in personal insights that form your specific outline, a life plan, completely unique to you so you can create and nurture relationships you desire.
www.tonireillyinstitute.com
Betrayal is the secret affecting your relationships.
Betrayal is your predominate emotional bruise, it shows up through your behaviour and reactions within your relationships.
Your tendency is to seek respect and trust from every person and situation that you encounter.
In order to avoid being seen as untrustworthy yourself or allow your trust to be taken advantage of you take control.
You are an amazing leader, capable of achieving a great following.
You have charisma that draws people in.
You can be impatient, expecting others to work at your powerful full-on pace.
You can speak to anyone because you class people equally, from the homeless person on the street to the president.
Flipside, you might micro-manage fearing that it will not be done right.
You have a strong ability to delegate and make decisions quickly.
You are protective and loyal.
You are capable of doing many things at once because your energy levels never seem to run out.
Jealousy may be the cause of your stress, where you have built up a belief that you can not trust your partner or those close to youYou may study continuously because you don’t trust that you know enough.
You might swoop in and take care of the needs of others so that you are seen as responsible and dependable, therefore trustworthy.
In order to feel you can trust those close, you attempt to control others with rules or expectations.
WORKING WITH BETRAYAL
To embrace the bruise of Betrayal, it is important to feel like you can trust those around you. The life mission is to truly trust yourself when you do you can acknowledge that being vulnerable is a strength. Impatience turns to patience once we’ve finished with you.
SoulLife® Map empowers you with life-transforming epiphanies, resulting in personal insights that form your specific outline, a life plan, completely unique to you so you can create and nurture relationships you desire.
www.tonireillyinstitute.com
Inequality is the secret affecting your relationships.
Inequality is your predominate emotional bruise, it shows up through your behaviour and reactions within your relationships.
In childhood, you found it unfair that you could not integrate your individuality.
When you feel challenged or do not agree you can become inflexible.
You fear imperfection, therefore have attention to detail.
You have the ability to simplify and explain easily.
You are extremely capable in an emergency being able to swoop in and take care of things, even disastrous situations.
On a personal level, you resist commitment.
When faced with injustice, your reaction is to cut off from your feelings, that is how you protect your soft-hearted self.
It is important to you to watch your weight, your esteem depends on it.
You are visionary with how you see things and are capable of dumbing complex ideas into language that others can understand. This makes you a great teacher.
You like to feel appreciated.
You do not like being taken for granted.
When people ask if you’re okay, you are most likely to respond with “I’m fine” or “no problem”.
You can feel ripped off if you perceive any circumstance is not what you deserved.
When your perfectionism is undermined, usually by you and your distorted perception of how things should be done or appear; you get stressed.
You seek fairness for all and in that process can end up being unfair to yourself.
You are not a fan of authority and will fight for your cause if you believe you are right.
Your self-control is extraordinary.
Sometimes you laugh to hide how sensitive you are.
You are a machine who rarely gets ill, you can keep going when many cannot.
You second guess your choices.
People see you as lively, amazing and dynamic because you are.
WORKING WITH INEQUALITY
To embrace the bruise of Inequality, you have to learn to lower the bar that you have set way too high by giving yourself unrealistic guidelines to live up to. By calming down your unrealistic expectations of yourself you can live more freely and easy-going. Once we’ve finished with you, you can kick anxiety to the curb for good.
SoulLife® Map empowers you with life-transforming epiphanies, resulting in personal insights that form your specific outline, a life plan, completely unique to you so you can create and nurture relationships you desire.
www.tonireillyinstitute.com
Share your Results:
